February - Love That Bridges Difference
Love that Bridges Difference
February is often associated with love — though more in the commercial sense of cards, roses, or chocolates than in the deeper spiritual sense that Christian communities hold dear. Yet for interchurch families, February offers a meaningful lens: love not as sentiment, but as the active, resilient, bridge-building force that shapes daily life.
Interchurch families embody a unique form of love — one that does not erase difference but holds it with tenderness and integrity. Living between Christian traditions demands a kind of relational maturity that many never have to face. You are navigating not only the dynamics of partnership but also the complexities of identity, belonging, practice, memory, and often deeply held theological commitments. Yet the love that binds your family is strong enough to build bridges between these realities.
Love that bridges difference is not effortless. It asks patience when conversations become difficult. It asks humility when traditions clash in ways you had not expected. It asks creativity when parenting decisions require balancing two sets of sacramental expectations. It asks compassion when one partner struggles with feeling like an outsider in the other’s church.
And yet, this love thrives precisely because it is active. It does not avoid tension; it transforms it. It invites both partners to learn from each other’s backgrounds and appreciate the richness of their shared spiritual landscape. Love in an interchurch family becomes an everyday practice of listening, accommodating, celebrating, and sometimes lamenting.
This form of love reveals something beautiful about Christian unity itself. Unity is not uniformity; it is difference held in love. This is not just a slogan in ecclesial documents — it is a lived reality in your homes. You show the wider Church, often without realising it, what unity can look like when love is its foundation rather than doctrine alone.
February asks us to sit quietly with the question: What does it mean to love across difference?
For interchurch families, it may mean recognising that both traditions contribute to your family’s spiritual life in ways that are irreplaceable. Your home may hold the language of two liturgies, the rhythm of two calendars, the melody of two hymnals. Each contributes something distinct. Together, they form a spiritual ecosystem richer than either would be alone.
It may also mean advocating for one another within your respective churches — explaining your family’s journey to ministers, pushing gently for understanding when policies feel restrictive, or helping children navigate questions about belonging. These acts are not merely relational; they are ecclesial. They are expressions of love directed both toward the family and toward the unity of the wider Church.
Love that bridges difference also has a contemplative dimension. It invites us to discover the presence of Christ already at work across denominations. To see Christ in the Eucharist of one tradition and the Communion table of another. To hear Christ in the silence of one church and the vibrant hymnody of another. Interchurch families become witnesses to the breadth of Christ’s body.
Yet living this love can be draining. It can feel like carrying the weight of reconciliation on your shoulders — particularly when institutional misunderstandings or barriers arise. In these moments, February’s theme becomes an invitation to receive love as well as give it. Allow yourself the grace to rest, to recognise that you cannot solve the divisions of the global Church within your home. Unity is God’s work; your calling is simply to live faithfully within it.
Perhaps the most beautiful expression of love in interchurch families is the way it shapes children. Children raised between traditions often grow up seeing difference as normal, not threatening. They learn early that two ways of worshipping can be equally holy. They discover that the Church is bigger than any one expression. This is love at its most transformative — forming hearts that are open, curious, and grounded.
As February unfolds, may interchurch families take time not only to reflect on the love they offer one another but also to honour the love that sustains them: the love of God who draws all things into unity. Love does not erase difference; it binds it into something beautiful. Interchurch families live this truth every day — and the Church is richer because of it.
Melanie Carroll - Executive Officer







