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Interchurch Families and Christian Unity

Interchurch families have been called ‘the human face of ecumenism’. Pope John Paul II, in Britain in 1982, told them: ‘You live in your marriage the hopes and difficulties of the path to Christian unity’. When the Association of Interchurch Families was formed in the 1960s in the wake of the Second Vatican Council and its Decree on Ecumenism, one of the desires of its founding members was to make the unity they had discovered in their own marriages fruitful in some way for the coming together of their two churches.

In 2003 a statement adopted by the Second World Gathering of Interchurch Families at Rome said: ‘We believe that, as interchurch families, we have a significant and unique contribution to make to our churches’ growth in visible Christian unity. Many people in our churches have told us that we are pioneers. As two baptised Christians who are members of two different, and as yet separated Christian traditions, we have come together in the covenant of marriage to form one Christian family. As we grow into that unity, we begin and continue to share in the life and worship of each other’s church communities. We develop a love and understanding not only of one another, but also of the churches that have given each of us our religious and spiritual identity. In this way interchurch families can become both a sign of unity and a means to grow towards unity. We believe that interchurch families can form a connective tissue helping in a small way to bring our churches together in the one Body of Christ.’

Interchurch partners live in one another’s traditions as well as their own. They can be ambassadors for their own tradition in their partner’s church, helping to build up understanding and love between congregations. When an interchurch family has an important celebration, they often invite both clergy and congregations to participate, and this can help others to see the reality and joy of Christian unity in a way that no reading or hearing about it will do. It can happen at their wedding, at the baptism or dedication of their child, a first communion, a young person’s confirmation or profession of faith, a wedding anniversary, a funeral.

Interchurch families are motivated to be active in ecumenical structures at all levels. In local Churches Together they are often to be found promoting study groups, Bible and prayer groups, as well as participating in joint mission and service in the community. As an association, AIF has encouraged its members to work in intermediate ecumenical structures, and has itself been a body-in-association with Churches Together in England and Churches Together in Britain and Ireland, playing a full part in their work. Its members have served on bilateral groups such as English ARC (the Anglican-Roman Catholic Commission) and the Methodist-Catholic Committee.

Above all, by their very existence as domestic churches related to two as yet separated church communities, interchurch families embody Christian unity in their daily lives.

Summary of the German Bishops Guidance by Ruth Reardon

A summary of the full text Walking with Christ – Tracing Unity: Interdenominational marriages and sharing in the Eucharist which was published by the German Bishops in February 2018. The full text is also available in the library.

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Walking With Christ – Tracing Unity: Interdenominational marriages and sharing the Eucharist

This document contains the full English translation of the German Bishops Guidance issued in February 2018.

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Interchurch Families and Christian Unity – Rome 2003

This paper was formally adopted by the Second World Gathering of Interchurch Families held at the Mondo Migliore Centre near Rome, 24-28 July 2003. It is the work of representatives of associations, networks and groups of interchurch families in various countries: English-speaking groups in Britain and Ireland, Australia, Canada and the United States; French-speaking groups in France and Switzerland, German-speaking groups in Germany and Austria, together with Italian groups. Some of these associations and groups were founded in the 1960’s; others have been formed more recently.

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The Pastoral Care of Interchurch Families

Guidelines and Recommendations issued by Churches Together in Marriage (1994)

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Making a Marriage: Seeking Unity

An address by Canon Peter Chambers, Director of the Board of Social Responsibility in the Anglican Diocese of Guildford at a one-day workshop on “Interchurch Marriage – an Undervalued Resource”.

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Response to the 2015 Synod on the Family from the Interchurch Families International Network

The Interchurch Families International Network, a loose network of groups of interchurch families from across the world, has submitted a response to one of the questions posed by the Vatican in its preparatory document – “Does current legislation provide a valid response to the challenges resulting from mixed marriages or interreligious marriages?” Following the circulation of an initial late last year a number of comments were received and a final paper was submitted to Cardinal Baldisseri at the Synod Office in Rome by the co-ordinator of the network, Professor Thomas Knieps of Leuven University in Belgium.

The response suggests that the working document for the Synod could usefully include a section devoted to the concerns of mixed and interreligious families. It particularly asks that consideration be given to revising the terminology “mixed marriages” when it refers to mixed marriages between baptised Christians and suggests that the term “Interchurch Families” should be recognised as a suitable parallel description to “interreligious families”.

The paper goes on to describe, briefly, the mission of interchurch families and to ask for consideration of four issues that impact on them  – pastoral attention to the way in which interchurch couples are prepared for marriage preparation;  the need for a pre-nuptial “promise”;  support for interchurch families in bringing up their children; and a more explicit statement that interchurch spouses who express a real desire for eucharistic sharing, and who fulfil the criteria for admission, can be allowed to receive communion alongside their Catholic partners on an on-going basis, whenever they are at Mass together.

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Synod on the Family, 4-25 October 2015: A report by Ruth Reardon

Following the Synod on the Family in October 2015 in Rome Ruth Reardon, Life President of AIF wrote a report outlining the activity and place of Interchurch Families in this process.


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Amoris Leatitia: Comments from an Interchurch Family Perspective by Ruth Reardon

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Interchurch Families in the UK: Living as Domestic Church, not expecting too much; never being satisfied with too little.

Interchurch Families in the UK: Living as Domestic Church, not expecting too much; never being satisfied with too little.
Written by Doral Hayes, Executive Development Officer AIF

This paper was requested for the INTAMS Review following attendance at the INTAMS symposium in Rome in September 2015 prior to the Synod on the Family in October 2016.  The request was for a paper considering of the experience and expectations of people in interchurch families in the UK of the synod process.


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